RUHCUS Day 14:Second Chances
28 Jul 2011 Leave a Comment
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Forgiveness & Reconciliation
While looking at areas in my spirit that need improvement I have chosen to work on these things.I can be overly critical and unforgiving.I have held grudges for years. If you offend, hurt, insult, deceive, bumped into, jaywalked in front of, burned my biscuits, or blinked wrong. I would go into orange terror alert(defense mode) and drop a brick wall equipped with archers, moats and crocodiles. I rarely explained why I was upset, and I didn’t give second chances or opportunities for explanation.
Moving Toward the Light
I had friends that I loved on voice mail/text status with no other access to my life. I took the first steps toward reconciliation and called them. Each of them apologized and said they didnt understand why I didnt tell them sooner or give them an opportunity to make it right. I said, “If I told you that you hurt me I believed it was a sign of weakness.I am sorry that I let my ego take over and shut you out. ” It was never their intent to hurt me. If one of them had died while I was holding onto the hurt I would have been devastated. Healing for me today is giving back the love and understanding that has been given to me.
Let Me Preface This…
There are people that you need to remove from your inner circle and life all together. It happens. There some things you dont get a second chance at doing to me. If the core of the transgression suggests you miscalculated my worth or your behavior endangers me or my family, we cant never be friends again.
People grow apart, paths diverge, and allegiances and interest change and so will your friends. We are all constantly evolving. All I’m saying is that life is short, your truest friends are flawed humans, love them anyway.
We need your RUHCUS, and so do you.
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